A quick thank you to everyone who chimed in with their 2 cents.  I found all your responses so helpful and comforting.

Miss M is still flipping out and she’s still upset more hours in the day than not.  But I am feeling bolstered by the new ideas and avenues you all suggested for us to explore.

I’ve struggled with not knowing how much to tell her.  (She is, after all, only 3 years old).  But after reading about all your experiences, I feel that it’s ok to be honest with her (in 3 year old terms of course).  Because the reality is that I can’t hide this from her.  So why not keep it real?  Let her know what is happening and what she can expect.  Let her know that I love her dearly and always will.  Let her know that it’s ok to be mad…  and sad…  and frustrated…

And I will continue to do my best to create a firm and loving holding environment for her.  To set limits.  To continue with our daily routines.  And surround her with people who care and love her unconditionally.

Lisa Marie – I love the Neufeld Institute site you forwarded to me and may call the lady in North Vancouver for some over-the-phone coaching.  Their approach seems very much in line with my leanings towards attachment parenting.

Trisha – We need to get together soon so we can catch-up on our cancer journeys, parenting, and life.  We are 2 tough mamas and we are gonna get through this.

Mark, Elenore, Gwyneth, Jewel, & Joelyne – Thank you for sharing your personal stories with me about navigating the ups & downs of living in a household with family illness.  I’m touched by your candor and willingness to open up.

Rhonda Lea – Your words broke my heart.  I’m so sorry you did not receive the reassurance you needed.  After reading your comment I made it a point to tell Miss M last night that she was in no way responsible for me having cancer and that nothing she says or does would make me sick.  This elicited a big smile from her.  Thank you.

And Lois – I couldn’t agree more with your dad’s wisdom:  “When they are the most unlovable is when they need the most love”.  I will try to remember this when Miss M is at her worst & I’m at my whits end.

This is an ongoing battle.  We’re all still adjusting to our new “normal”.  But I have faith that we will make it through.  In large part due to the beautiful support and guidance from all of you.

Lots of love.  – T